It’s natural that we don’t feel confident about every single thing we do in our lives. From imposter syndrome at work to insecurity about our bodies. But when it comes to a topic we don’t like to talk about among friends and acquaintances, that’s confidence in the bedroom. We’ll give you the top tips on how to build your self-confidence during sex.
1. take stock of your experiences
Deal with yourself: recall memories, past experiences and feelings when topics around sexuality come up, and learn to process them. By looking at your personal experiences with sex, you can get an all-around view of the reasons why you may feel unsafe having sex, whether it’s talking about it or doing it sexually.
If you find that you’re reaching your limits and self-reflection isn’t enough, you can also consult a sex therapist. They can help you figure out where the lack of confidence is coming from and if any traumas are limiting you.
2. get to know yourself better
One of the best ways to boost your confidence in bed is to figure out what you like and don’t like. This means being completely honest with yourself, with you, and not being ashamed or apologetic.
A healthy and above all satisfying sexuality is based on understanding yourself better. Relationship always begins with ourselves, and if that relationship with ourselves is unsafe, chances are that all other relationships will be unsafe as well – whether they are platonic or romantic.
3. talk to your partner in advance about your desires and fears.
When you know your needs, your body, and your sexual experiences better, you can better talk to your partner about what you want and don’t want. It’s important to talk about this before you have sex – because it’s the only way you can help ensure that your boundaries are respected. Sex is an intimate experience that you share with another person, whether it’s a one-night stand or in a relationship.
4. Learn to develop routines and habits that put you in the right frame of mind.
Once you’ve got everything out in the open, you can take it a step further with your partner. You can develop rituals that will help you build your trust in each other. While it’s important to understand yourself, it’s just as important to understand your partner’s wants and needs to build your confidence. By learning and finding out what he or she likes and observing the reactions, together you can improve your sex and the experience for both of you.
Conclusion
Remember to be patient with yourself. With your enough patience and empathy for yourself and your partner, you will be able to uncover and change your history, wants, and needs about sex. Be open about the journey of self-exploration you are embarking on and try to stay curious during this time. As long as you don’t pressure yourself to do things you don’t want to do, you’re on the right path to a hot and satisfying sex life.